Filling Your Cup: Mom Approved Ideas for Daily Self-Care

Filling Your Cup: Mom Approved Ideas for Daily Self-Care

Mothers Need to be Serious About Self-Care

As a momma of four, self-care is something I’m focusing on in my own life. It’s a habit I’m not always great at, but I keep trying.

I’m a work in progress.

Motherhood is a full time job; only unlike full-time jobs in the corporate world there aren’t vacation days, sick leave, or someone leaving donuts in the staff lounge.

The hours of motherhood are long–so very long– that finding time to go to the bathroom without a little one cheering,”Go Momma! You tinkled in the potty!”, is nearly impossible.

For these reasons, among others, mothers desperately need to make time for ourselves.

We need to carve out pockets of time to take care of ourselves, because we can’t take care of our little ones (or our husbands and homes) if we have nothing left.

“You can’t pour from an empty cup.”

Someone really smart

How to Make Time For Yourself

One of the hardest parts about taking time to recharge ourselves, is finding the time in our lives.

Between co-op, Awana, and Homeschool PE–not to mention planning and cooking healthy meals, cleaning the house, enriching the lives of my children through good books, and making sure those same children don’t suddenly decide they’re Superman and can fly from the roof of our house; there isn’t a lot of time left for me.

Especially when I still have a one year old who needs his nap-time snuggles, and to be perfectly honest, I need those snuggles too.

Things Were Getting Crazy, and By Things, I Mean Me.

For years the only self-care I was getting were from my daily home work out programs. I remember patting myself on the back thinking, I’m so smart taking this time for myself. This self-care stuff is simple.

There was a small problem with my thinking.

Self-care is more than just working out.

It’s more than a thirty minute sweat session. Especially if during that thirty minutes your mind isn’t focused on the moves, but on something else. It also doesn’t work if your children break your focus every few minutes.

I was getting into shape because I was working out daily, and I was paying attention to what I was fueling my body with, but I wasn’t feeling any more filled.

My mind and body felt depleted all the time, and I was not filling my children with loving attention.

Something Had to Give

When I finally realized I needed more in my life than a daily fitness routine, I started looking for other things to enrich my life. The problem with this was that I still didn’t have any extra time.

So, I started by cutting out extraneous things that didn’t bring me joy.

The first thing to go was Facebook. Suddenly I had a lot of extra time that I didn’t have before, but I wasn’t done cutting things out yet.

I’m quite a perfectionist, and that is a time consuming personality. In the last year I’ve focused on letting things go, of getting rid of this time eater. I’ve done this in small ways like: not worrying so much about the toys in the living room, or the unfolded blankets on the couch and chairs.

These little things led to other things that have made time-management easier. Like the printable in this post.

What Can You Cut Out of Your Schedule?

Before you go any further, take a moment to list the things you do throughout the day. This includes running errands, making meals, being a taxi, and scrolling through social media.

In case you were wondering, the time you spend binge watching Netflix also counts.

Once you’ve listed the things you do each day, decide what things you can cut out or at least down.

It’s important for us as mothers to make the time, not just wait for it to appear.

I know mindlessly scrolling through social media may help us check-out for a few minutes, but trust me, you’ll thank yourself if you cut it back so you have time for some real self-care.

Sare Approved Self-Care Ideas

Below is a list of just a handful of self-care ideas that are possible in short amounts of time. Things that have personally helped me to better focus on filling my tank, so that I can better fill my children and husband with love.:

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Full Fat Tea
  • Time in the Word.
  • Reading personal development books (Here are a few recommendations)
  • Reading a great novel
  • Enjoying a cup of tea or cocoa on the porch
  • Get moving (at home workouts bring a personal trainer straight to you, and for a time that works for you!)
  • Get a massage
  • Get your nails done (or do them yourself)
  • Take a long shower or bath
  • Stretch your body daily
  • Drink at least half you body weight in water daily
  • Try a new make-up technique
  • Wash your face
  • Crank up worship music and praise God
  • Enjoy a special treat. We have an amazing cupcake bakery near us, and I love going there and indulging in a gourmet cupcake.
  • Get enough sleep (this one is super important)
  • Eat a balanced diet. Remember fat is NOT bad for you. Stay away from things that claim they’re “low fat”.
  • Listen to a podcast. Mama Bear Apologetics has a great one. So does Million Praying Moms.
  • Go out for coffee with a friend (and leave your phones on silent in your purse).
  • Journal, color, or create.
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Chocolate Chip Cookie Dough Cupcake

Obviously, this isn’t an exhaustive list, but I do hope it has given you some ideas of how you can add some much needed self-care into your life.

In the comment section, please add any other self-care ideas you have tried or want to try. I’d love to add to this list in the future.

Until next time,

wellofaith
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Homeschool from the heart

Book Recommendations for July 2019: Sare’s Favorite Reads

Books are my friends, my companions. They make me laugh and cry, and find meaning in life.”

Christopher Paolini, Eragon

Book Recommendations for Personal Development and Enrichment

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Who is ready for a few more book recommendations? If you haven’t had a chance yet, check out other book recommendations here.

The month of July found me diving deeper into personal development.

Recently my focus has been heavy into Apologetics and strengthening my personal relationship with my Heavenly Father, as well as how my family’s homeschooling journey fits into it.

The following four books helped me with difficult decisions, and answered questions that nagged at me.

I pray they will help you as well.

Book Recommendation Number 1

Mama Bear Apologetics Empowering Your Kids to Challenge Cultural Lies

It isn’t enough for our kids to hear us talk about the truth; they must understand how we are to live the truth.

Hillary Morgan Ferrer

I love the term “Mama Bear”.

It speaks to my heart as a Momma of four.

Since I’ve been looking for a better understanding of how to help my kids not only understand the cultural lies they’ll face in their lifetime, but how to help them embrace their own personal relationship with Jesus Christ–and I’m still so young in my own journey, I jumped at a chance to read a book aimed directly at this season of my life.

Sometimes social media really comes through– I first heard about this via IG, and pre-ordered it. Since that time I’ve also subscribed to their podcast and have learned so much.

Knowing I’m not alone in the struggles and worries has been a huge help for me too.

You’ll read about Linguistic Theft —“purposely hijacking words, changing their definitions, and then using those same words as tools of propaganda” as well as the various isms our society is obsessed with (Self-Helpism, Naturalism, Skepticism, Postmodernism, Moral Relativism, Emotionalism, Pluralism, Marxism, and Feminism)

Written by women passionate about Apologetics and raising children with strong relationships with Christ; I can’t recommend this book enough.

It’s definitely a book I’ll keep coming back to read time and again.

Book Recommendation Number 2

Jesus Unmasked: The Truth Will Shock You

Never forget, God is more interested in our holiness than He is in our happiness.

Todd Friel
July 2019 Book Recommendations

Don’t let Ken Ham’s endorsement of this book turn you off.

Todd Friel has a way with words, and a passion that jumps off the page.

Now, to be honest nothing in the book ‘shocked’ me, because I already know how awesome Jesus is.

However, as with Mama Bear, above, I acquired a deeper understanding of the truths written in the scriptures.

Reading Jesus Unmasked was similar to sitting down to a deep discussion with a good and knowledgeable friend.

One who knows exactly when to juxtapose humor with the seriousness of our salvation.

I found this book to be a super quick read, with chapters short enough to finish in between the needs of my kiddos.

Since I’m a tad weird about needing to finish a chapter before putting my book down, this is something I certainly appreciate in any book.

You can pick up your copy here.

Book Recommendation Number 3

Plan Your Year Homeschool Planning for Purpose and Peace

It didn’t take me long to realize I had missed a vital part of the planning process…My perfect plan ignored the most important factor of all: the people in front of me.

Pam Barnill
2019 July Book Recommendations

When it comes to homeschooling there are multiple ways to do it.

Two of my favorites are planning it, and winging it.

Now, if you’re interested in actually being a bit more prepared for the year ahead, I recommend NOT winging it.

However, I also get a twitch from too much planning.

Pam Barnhill has taken (most of) the anxiety out of preparing for the year(s) ahead with this book.

Plan Your Year: Homeschool Planning for Purpose and Peace has something for everyone in it.

The personal stories of what worked for other homeschool moms give wonderful insight; and though we’re all different, seeing what ideas worked and didn’t work for others, helps us focus on what is best for our own families.

Since reading this book, and following the steps that fit my personal teaching style, and how I envision my family’s homeschool experience, I’m more excited for this year than any other year in our homeschool journey so far.

You can purchase your copy here.

Book Recommendation Number 4

Mother Culture For a Happy Homeschool

We experience greater fulfillment as women and homemakers when we find and uncover the hidden artist within us.

Karen Andreola
Mother Culture July 2019 Book Recommendations

Anyone familiar with the Charlotte Mason philosophy has likely heard the term “Mother culture”.

In the first chapter of her book, Karen defines what she means by mother culture.

“Mother culture is the skillful art with which a mother looks after the ways of her household and herself. In her home she creates a culture all her own with a mingling of love and responsibility.”

Now, as a homeschooling, SAHM of four kiddos, I’m guilty of forgetting about myself in the hustle of every day life.

There have been times in the not so distant past when I discovered I hadn’t read a book for personal enjoyment in longer than I could remember.

It isn’t surprising to note during that same period of time I wasn’t doing anything else for my enjoyment either. Sure, I was working out each day, but that wasn’t as much for enjoyment as it was a necessity for me to move without pain.

My personal time with God wasn’t happening the way it should either.

Life was spiraling out of control.

This book, while not the definitive guide to refilling your personal cup, is an amazing resource when you start to forget you’re a person as well as a wife, mother, and teacher.

My own copy of this book is already filled with highlights of things I want to be able to flip back to quickly.

With beautiful illustrations and wonderful quotes, Mother Culture For a Happy Homeschool is a great way to begin refilling your cup so you can continue to pour into your family.

To purchase your own copy, click here.

I hope this has helped you add a few more books to your summer reading pile.

If you’re read any books you think I should read, I’m always interested in recommendations. After all, there are never too many books to be read.

Until next time,

wellofaith