A Mother's Superpower: Knowing How to Say No--wellofaith.com

A Mother’s Superpower: Knowing How to Say “No”.

A Mother’s Superpower: Knowing How to Say “No”.

Busyness, the New Social Competition

After a conversation the other day, with my dear sister-in-Christ, Jeanne, I began thinking about the busyness of not just motherhood, but of the busyness of childhood.

Admittedly this isn’t the first time I’ve thought about this topic, or written about it on this blog.

In fact, this post on, “saying ‘no'” was written in 2015.

Although many things in my life (and in my writing) have changed since that post, much still remains the same.

We spend so much time as a society trying to improve our busyness, one-upping our friends on how busy we are, and sharing the constant activities, places, and events we’re either participating in, preparing to participate in, or have just participated in.

Just typing that was exhausting. It makes my brain hurt.

But What About Socialization?

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If you’re reading this you’re likely a homeschool mother, or at the very least are familiar with the homeschool community. The constant question from the general population is always, “what about socialization”?

Having had to answer this a time or twenty, I understand the frustration.

Sadly though, I’ve discovered the continual barrage of this question on homeschool mothers has led many to over-socialize their children (and themselves).

We spend so much time as a society trying to improve our busyness, one-upping our friends on how busy we are, and sharing the constant activities, places, and events we’re either participating in, preparing to participate in, or have just participated in.

Mothers are humans too (although they’re often more superhuman than mere human), and they want to fit in with others just like their children do. This leads to worry about their children missing out on all the ‘things’.

Things = extracurricular activities: drama, music, dance, cooking class, various sports, etc.

There are quite literally more options for activities for our children than I can even wrap my head around. There could be several posts spent discussing these possible options.

Some of them are even good.

However, do our children really need to be overwhelmed by a smorgasbord of ‘good’ activities if it doesn’t leave them (or their mother) time for things that would prove to be more than just ‘good’?

Yes, I’m “That” Parent

I’m an introvert by nature, and a homebody on top of that. My family is convinced that I’m one step away from becoming a hermit. Especially since I can now have pretty much everything I need delivered to my doorstep.

A Mother's Superpower: Knowing How to Say No--wellofaith.com

Being a mother of highly social and obviously extroverted children, I’m not likely to see hermit-hood anytime in the next eighteen years or so.

So instead, I know that I need to maintain my sanity, while still providing for the interactive needs of my children.

This means making sure my children have outlets and activities to participate in.

Activities in and of themselves aren’t ‘bad’.

Over-scheduling ourselves and our families is.

I’ll be honest, there are tons of things my children want to get involved in.

There are even quite a few I’ve considered for my children.

However, after prayerfully considering these activities, and my own sanity–as well as God’s call for me to raise my children for His glory, I always come to the realization that these extra activities are just ‘good’.

If I’m going to give up family time for individual activities, they have to be more than just ‘good’. They have to be great.

Does this mean I say ‘no’ to a lot of opportunities for my children?

Yes.

Is my twelve-year old daughter bummed about missing out on a social group or activity her friends are participating in?

Also, Yes.

As Mothers We Need to Know When to Say “No”.

My children are already busier than I would ideally like. However, the activities they’re in were prayerfully considered.

Whenever possible they’re in activities at the same place and time.

Since my husband works nights and is often gone for long hours of over-time and commuting; I treasure the time he is home, and try to make sure the kids are home to get every extra moment they can with him.

If I’m going to give up family time for individual activities, they have to be more than just ‘good’. They have to be great.

There are times when this actually causes us to skip a particular activity for the week, simply because, to me, family togetherness far outweighs social activities.

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Our Activities:

  • As a family we attend church together on Sundays.
  • Tuesdays my husband takes the three older kiddos to the gym where they participate in homeschool PE (and I stay home for much needed snuggles with the youngest).
  • Wednesdays the kiddos and I participate in Awana at our church. Two Wednesdays a month my eldest works with the tech team for the middle school worship team during our Awana time.
  • Thursdays we have our homeschool Co-Op

The days we don’t have scheduled activities we have game time, and just take it easy.

Children need time to “be bored”, and if every moment of their days are scheduled with activities they never have the opportunity to discover ways to entertain themselves.

There are weeks when my eldest is invited to a birthday party, or to spend a few hours at a friend’s house.

Most of the time she’ll be allowed to go, and always enjoys her time.

Other times, I’ll use my motherhood superpower and say, “no”.

A Mother's Superpower: Knowing How to Say No--wellofaith.com

Not because I have anything against her having friends, or experiencing life; but because sometimes there are things more important than those moments of excitement and fun.

Sometimes, there is a voice whispering in my heart “no, not this time”.

I’ve learned to listen to that voice.

Give Yourself Grace

One of the hardest parts about being a mother, is remembering to give ourselves grace. We often forget that God shows us all grace everyday, but we find it nearly impossible to show that same grace to ourselves.

Saying no isn’t always easy. Sometimes you’ll second guess your decisions. That’s normal.

I’ve learned in the last four years so many amazing things about myself, and my children. Had I said yes to every activity that sounded good, I don’t think there would have been time or closeness for these discoveries.

Saving my ‘yes’ for only the best things, has made a huge impact on my family’s lives.

We may not be doing ‘all the things’, but we are getting to know each other; to learn together, and to live our lives together.

Not just living from one activity to another, but actually living in the moment.

Something to Consider:

Start small. Try setting one day a week aside where you don’t participate in any activities outside the house. Use this time to connect on a more relaxed level with your children.

Something to Pray:

Heavenly Father,

May we strive to prayerfully know what the best use of our ‘yes’ is. We ask for guidance in saying ‘no’ when everyone else is saying ‘yes’. Help us to make intentional use of our time with our families that we may raise our children for Your glory.

In Jesus’ Name,

Amen

Until next time,

wellofaith
A Mother's Superpower: Knowing How to Say No--wellofaith.com

If you’re looking for a good book on this topic, I recommend this book by Lysa Terkeurst.

Quick Recipes: Green Chili Chicken Enchiladas--wellofaith.com

Quick Recipes: Green Chili and Chicken Enchiladas

Quick Recipes: Green Chili and Chicken Enchiladas

Happy Food Friday, Sisters!

It’s November 1st and enchilada week! This makes me incredibly happy. Well, the enchiladas, not so much that it’s the first of November. This year has flown by, and now I have to start getting serious about Christmas shopping.

Anyway, back to those cheesy and delicious enchiladas…

I absolutely love enchiladas (even though I can guarantee mine aren’t really authentic), and since it’s been a heck of a week recovering from our family vacation this Momma is in need of a little comfort food.

As much as I enjoy this green chili and chicken enchilada recipe, I tend to only make it once in a while (which translates to about once a month in our family).

I’ll admit they’re not the healthiest dish we eat around here, but they’re not nearly as bad for you as food from the local restaurant.

Quick Recipes: Green Chili Chicken Enchiladas--wellofaith.com
Look at all the delicious cheese!

This recipe makes enchiladas that are the perfect comfort food, and can be prepped (ideally) a day ahead and stored in the fridge overnight.

Something about letting them soak up the sauce overnight makes them that much more delicious.

Quick Recipes: Green Chili and Chicken Enchiladas--wellofaith.com
Pair it with veggies and a salad and boom!

An added bonus to making them the day before, means I can just pull them out of the fridge and slide them into the oven. This allows me to continue lessons (or snuggling–sometimes both) with the kids, or even take a shower!

So without further ado…

Green Chili and Chicken Enchilada Recipe

Green Chili and Chicken Enchilada Ingredients:

  • Approximately 4 Cups shredded chicken (you can use a rotisserie chicken from Costco or Walmart)
  • 1 large can of green (or red if you prefer) enchilada sauce
  • 1 can of mild green chilies
  • 8 large whole wheat tortillas
  • 1 pound shredded cheese (I used Mozzarella, but have also used Colby-Jack and Cheddar)
  • Toppings of choice: Salsa, sour cream (or plain Greek yogurt), avocado, etc.

Directions:

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To make these delicious enchiladas, grab a large casserole dish and pour in just enough enchilada sauce to cover the bottom.

Preheat oven to 350 degrees F.

In a large bowl combine chicken, approximately a cup of cheese, chilies, and just enough sauce to add a bit of moisture and color.

Mix well.

I roll the enchiladas right in the casserole dish so the tortillas grab moisture and are easier to work with.

Scoop meat mixture evenly into each tortilla.

Roll tortillas and fit snuggly together in the casserole dish.

Pour remaining sauce over rolled enchiladas.

Cover in cheese.

Refrigerate or bake immediately.

Bake for 30 minutes or until cheese is melted and the enchiladas are warmed through.

Top with your favorite garnishes.

I hope you and your family enjoy this quick meal perfect for the busyness of life.

Until next time,

wellofaith

For more quick recipes take a look at this one and this one.

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Sare's Simple Go-To Instant Pot Taco Tuesday Soup Recipe--wellofaith.com

Sare’s Simple Go-To Instant Pot Taco Tuesday Soup Recipe

Sare’s Simple Go-To Instant Pot Taco Tuesday Soup Recipe

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It’s Fall Food Friday Y’all!

The temps in our area have finally started to cool (with some mornings down-right chilly) enough for it finally feel like fall.

Fall means a lot of different things to people. To me it’s a great excuse for soup multiple nights a week.

I love the ease of soup, and making it in the Instant Pot makes it even easier. Admittedly, if I have the time, I prefer to simmer my soups on the stove, because who doesn’t love the smell of delicious soup filling the air?

Instant Pot Taco Tuesday Soup

This soup is super simple, and I often make the beans in the Instant Pot as I’m walking out the door for co-op on Thursday mornings.

Yes, we do Taco Tuesday on Thursdays.

And Tuesdays.

Also, sometimes on Fridays.

We really enjoy tacos in this family.

Taco Tuesday Soup Ingredients:

  • 1 package Hambeens Cajun 15 Bean Soup Mix
  • 1 onion sliced
  • 2 cloves garlic minced
  • 1 can diced tomatoes
  • taco meat (my favorite recipe is coming soon, but any “taco meat” recipe would work)
  • 1 container bone broth
  • 8 cups of water
  • shredded cheese (your choice of flavor)
  • salsa

Note: I generally purchase my bone broth from Costco, and my Hambeens from the local grocery store, but I’ve included Amazon links for them in case they’re not available where you live.

Plus, who doesn’t love the ease of delivery?

Directions:

Sare's Simple Go-To Instant Pot Taco Tuesday Soup Recipe--wellofaith.com

Place beans inside instant pot (set seasoning packet aside for now).

Add 8 cups of water and stir together.

Close lid and make sure the valve is covered.

Turn on.

My off-brand Instant Pot has a setting for beans, so I select the highest cook time that setting offers, which is 30 minutes.

During this time you can chop of the onion and garlic, and make your taco meat. I often brown the onions and garlic in ghee, because I really love the flavor.

Remember, good fat isn’t the enemy.

When the beans have finished their cook cycle, release the pressure and open the lid.

Add the container of bone broth, onions, packet of seasoning, can of tomatoes, and the taco meat to the pot.

Seal the Instant Pot, once again closing the valve.

Select the soup setting.

I tend to set this for 30 minutes as well, just to make sure all the flavors are combined.

Once the cook cycle is finished, the soup is ready to eat.

Garnish with shredded cheese and salsa.

You can also top it with avocados, fresh diced tomatoes, and either sour cream or Greek yogurt.

I hope you and your family will enjoy this Taco Tuesday soup recipe as much and my family does.

If you try it out, let me know what you think in the comments below.

Until next time,

wellofaith

For a great bread to pair with this try my Bread Machine Hamburger Bun recipe. Trust me, they’re great even without the burger.

Sare's Simple Go-To Instant Pot Taco Tuesday Soup Recipe--wellofaith.com

Sare’s Christian Blog Post Recommendations: You Need to Read These!

Sare’s Christian Blog Post Recommendations: You Need to Read These!

Hello Dear Sisters!

As a child of God and a mother, sometimes things feel lonely. Sometimes it feels like there is no one out there experiencing *exactly* what you’re experiencing.

For that reason, I’ve combed the web to find five Christian posts to motivate, inspire, and reassure you.

These Christian blog posts are obviously just a small selection of all the glorious connections you can find. I’ve discovered these lovelies because of their posts on Pinterest.

My goal is to make sure everyone feels like they’ve got a tribe. I might be an introvert, but I’m an introvert who is called to comfort others.

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We may never meet in person to have a cup of tea, but I’ll do my best to share things to help moms in all stages and seasons.

I don’t have all the answers, or all the experiences, but I know there are people out there just like you. Hopefully these posts will bring you–whoever you are–comfort.

From the Christian Blog-o-sphere:

Sare's Christian Blog Post Recommendations: You Need to Read These!

Once you’ve had a chance to read these five Christian blog posts, let me know which one helped you the most. Also, take a moment to leave the author a comment to let them know that their words touched you.

Let’s build a community.

Until next time,

wellofaith

Check out this collection of “Mom Guilt” blog posts from across the web too.

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Wonderfully Easy Bread Machine Hamburger Bun Recipe--wellofaith.com

Wonderfully Easy Bread Machine Hamburger Bun Recipe

Wonderfully Easy Bread Machine Hamburger Bun Recipe

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Why Homemade Bread Machine Buns?

As someone who hates being rushed, and never feels like there is enough time in the day, why would I choose to make something like bread machine hamburger buns from scratch?

Simple.

They taste amazing, and they don’t stick to the roof of your mouth when you take a bite like so many store bought versions do.

Wonderfully Easy Bread Machine Hamburger Bun Recipe--wellofaith.com

Plus, added bonus–I can pronounce all the ingredients!

Since I’m Not Exactly A Culinary Wizard

I appreciate a never-fail recipe that allows me to feel like I’m not completely failing at the homemaking thing. When my children look back they’ll have memories of mom baking breads and desserts, as well as healthy, colorful meals.

Hopefully they’ll also remember they’re loved.

The Bread Machine Book

When I first received my bread machine, the only recipes I had were those that came in the box. Eventually I stumbled across this book at a book swap. Suddenly my homemade bread game was on a whole new level.

One of my favorite recipes from this book is actually the recipe I’ve modified and shared here. It comes from page 75 of The Bread Machine Book written by Marjie Lambert.

Hamburger Buns

Ingredients:

  • 1 egg
  • 7/8 cup milk
  • 4 1/2 tbsp butter
  • 3 tbsp sugar
  • 3/4 tsp salt
  • 3 cups bread flour
  • 1 tbsp yeast

Instructions:

Begin by placing all ingredients in your bread pan in the order suggested by your machine instructions.

Set machine for dough stage.

Press start.

When the machine’s cycle is finished, remove the dough and punch down.

Preheat oven to 400 degrees F.

Cut dough into eight even sections.

Allow the dough to rest for 5-minutes.

Oil two baking sheets (or use a Silpat mat like I do).

Roll each piece of dough into a round ball.

Flatten ball into a patty measuring approximately 3 inches wide and 1/2 inch thick.

Place rolls onto the prepared sheets.

Cover loosely, and allow to rise for 20 minutes.

Bake 12-15 minutes until golden brown.

Cool then slice down the center for the traditional hamburger bun look.

Just a side note: These are amazing to just munch on as dinner rolls as well.

If you like this recipe, in the comment section below, let me know how it turned out.

Until next time,

wellofaith

Have you tried my favorite muffin recipe? If not, check it out here. You won’t regret it, and your kiddos will sing your praises.

Wonderfully Easy Bread Machine Hamburger Buns--wellofaith.com

Mom Guilt: A Collection of Posts From Around the Web

Mom Guilt: A Collection of Posts From Around the Web

Changing It Up

Since the point of this blog is to connect with, and help others– and I know I’m not capable of doing all the things for all the people, I’m trying something new (for me).

You’ve likely seen a “listicle” somewhere else on the internet, but if not, it’s simply an article compiling a list of various things in one place.

For instance, posts on mom guilt.

The following links are obviously not all the possible posts, but these called to me. My hope is they bring you comfort, ideas, and the knowledge that you’re never alone.

Mom Guilt: A Collection of Posts From Around the Web--wellofaith.com

10 Mom Guilt Articles You Need to Read

We’re All in this Together

Whether you’re a new mom, old mom, bio-mom, foster-mom, adoptive-mom… we’re in this together, because we’re all moms. We shouldn’t be perpetuating the cycle of guilt, by shaming other mothers. Join me in community with these mothers by reading their posts and showing them love and understanding.

In the comments below feel free to add a link to a mom-guilt post you’ve enjoyed.

Until next time,

wellofaith

For a great book to help you through your personal mom-guilt moments I recommend Introverted Mom: Your Guide to More Calm, Less Guilt and Quiet Joy. You can get your copy here.

If you’re looking for mom great reads you can find a list in this post too.

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When You’re Having Trouble Sleeping Try These Tips

When You’re Having Trouble Sleeping

Try These Tips

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When Catching Zs Has Become Illusive

When You're Having Trouble Sleeping Try These Tips--wellofaith.com

There have been several times throughout life when sleeping has been a challenge. These moments are often caused by stress, heartache, or babies.

Sometimes though, the reason for sleeplessness is because I can’t seem to turn my brain off. It doesn’t matter how tired the rest of my body is, my mind decides it is more important to run through all the things needing my attention–or that I feel need my attention, however erroneous that belief is.

With four kids in various stages of needing mothering, it is important that I shutdown as quickly as possible so I’m actual of some use come morning. That’s easier said than done, I know.

Below I share several of the tips and tricks I use regularly to ensure I get the rest I need to not only function, but to interact with people (my children included).

Sare’s Seven Tips For Sleeping Well

When You're Having Trouble Sleeping Try These Tips--wellofaith.com
  • Nighty Night Valerian Tea from Traditional Medicinals. This tea is by far my favorite night time drink. It tastes perfect with local raw honey for a hint of sweetness. Even on the toughest nights this tea works wonders. They recommend drinking it 30-minutes before you plan to go to sleep. I often pair this tea with my next tip.
  • Read a novel. This isn’t the time to pick up a heavy tome that you want to concentrate on. Pick a frivolous read. Something fun that will take your mind off pretty much anything except what is happening to the characters. I’m reading a series of Christian thrillers (Titus Ray Thrillers) recently that are enjoyable. Of course if you’re doing this using an e-reader with you may want to do this earlier in the evening, because of the next tip.
  • Avoid backlit screens for at least one hour prior to going to bed. You can read more about why we should avoid electronics before bed, here.
  • Take a warm shower. I’ve heard different takes on this. Some people say to avoid warm showers before bed, but I find that it helps to relax a lot of the tension I carry in my shoulders and neck. When my body is relaxed, my mind is relaxed too.
  • Brain dump. This is exactly what it sounds like. Grab a pen and some paper (not an electronic!) and dump everything that is swirling around in that brain of yours. I often write out my ‘to-do’ list before I go to sleep. It helps me to not suddenly ‘remember’ in the middle of the night, something I need to do the next day.
  • Recite scripture and pray. I often find myself doing this along with my final tip for falling to sleep. God’s word is great any time of the day, but it is most helpful when my brain is hyper-worried. Being able to give those worries to God, and using His word to do it pretty much guarantees a great night’s sleep.
  • My final tip is my favorite. Snuggle a sleeping baby. Yep. Cuddle up with that little bundle of squish you’re nurturing and loving all day. Since my youngest still sleeps with me, this is a daily part of my day, and like I said, my favorite. There is something so relaxing about listening to their little hearts beat, their gentle breathing, and their happy sounds that help relax even the most stressed out momma.

These tips are just a few possibilities you can try. They may or may not work for you, and I recommend you consult your family doctor if you regularly have issues with getting restful sleep.

We’re all busy mommas here, so I’d love any tips and tricks you’ve used to help you get that much needed sleep. Share them in the comments below. You should also check out my post here, for tips on calming the chaos we all experience as mothers. There’s a free printable included too. 🙂

Until next time,

wellofaith
Poetry Tea Time Cucumber Sandwiches--wellofaith.com

The Perfect Poetry Tea Time Cucumber Sandwich Recipe

The Perfect Poetry Tea Time Cucumber Sandwich Recipe

Poetry Tea Time: A Family Favorite

The term “Poetry Tea Time” isn’t something I came up with myself, but discovered through the Brave Writer creator, Julie Bogart.

While my family’s tea-time rarely looks as artistically displayed as other families’, and we don’t spend much time on actual poetry.

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Generally we read just one or two poems before we jump into other books we’re enjoying; and the tea is often replaced with hot chocolate, chocolate milk or smoothies, the feeling is the same.

It’s a time when we put away the stresses of the week, come together as a family and enjoy good literature and a special treat.

Once in awhile we will invite another family to join us, and the tea setting will look much more sophisticated. That’s half the fun of having others join us. It becomes more of a party atmosphere rather than a cozy time with each other.

Family Favorite Tea Time Treats

Poetry Tea Time Cucumber Sandwiches--wellofaith.com

When it comes to the special treats at our tea-times, we change it up regularly. Sometimes we eat muffins, or donuts. Occasionally I’ll bake cookies or a cupcakes; once in awhile though, we go all out.

Today’s treat was a full spread. We loaded our plates with freshly sliced strawberries, deviled-eggs, and the easiest cucumber tea sandwiches.

We still didn’t dress up the table; none of our cups matched, and we still drank hot chocolate instead of tea–but those sandwiches were pure sophistication!

Ingredients:

  • 8 slices bread of choice–we used our basic honey wheat sandwich bread
  • 8 ounce cream cheese softened
  • approximately 2 Tbsp parsley flakes
  • one thinly sliced cucumber peeled

Directions:

The Perfect Poetry Tea Time Cucumber Sandwich Recipe--wellofaith.com

In a medium bowl place cream cheese and allow to soften.

Add parsley flakes and mix.

Peel and thinly slice one cucumber, set aside.

Lay out eight (8) slices of bread. Spread cream cheese mixture on each slice.

Layer cucumbers on four (4) of the slices, then cover with the remaining four (4) slices of bread.

The Perfect Poetry Tea Time Cucumber Sandwich Recipe--wellofaith.com

Sprinkle salt and pepper to taste.

Using a sharp knife cut into triangles (because nothing says sophisticated tea party like miniature triangles!)

Enjoy with your favorite beverage, or just shovel them in your mouth when no one is looking. They’re that simple and that tasty.

I almost feel guilty sharing this as a recipe because it is such a super simple treat. It’s perfect for children or when you’re looking for something different for lunches.

Another great recipe for tea time is hard-boiled eggs or deviled eggs. You can check out the instant pot “recipe” for perfect hard-boiled eggs here.

Let me know what you think!

Until next time,

wellofaith

Filling Your Cup: Mom Approved Ideas for Daily Self-Care

Filling Your Cup: Mom Approved Ideas for Daily Self-Care

Mothers Need to be Serious About Self-Care

As a momma of four, self-care is something I’m focusing on in my own life. It’s a habit I’m not always great at, but I keep trying.

I’m a work in progress.

Motherhood is a full time job; only unlike full-time jobs in the corporate world there aren’t vacation days, sick leave, or someone leaving donuts in the staff lounge.

The hours of motherhood are long–so very long– that finding time to go to the bathroom without a little one cheering,”Go Momma! You tinkled in the potty!”, is nearly impossible.

For these reasons, among others, mothers desperately need to make time for ourselves.

We need to carve out pockets of time to take care of ourselves, because we can’t take care of our little ones (or our husbands and homes) if we have nothing left.

“You can’t pour from an empty cup.”

Someone really smart

How to Make Time For Yourself

One of the hardest parts about taking time to recharge ourselves, is finding the time in our lives.

Between co-op, Awana, and Homeschool PE–not to mention planning and cooking healthy meals, cleaning the house, enriching the lives of my children through good books, and making sure those same children don’t suddenly decide they’re Superman and can fly from the roof of our house; there isn’t a lot of time left for me.

Especially when I still have a one year old who needs his nap-time snuggles, and to be perfectly honest, I need those snuggles too.

Things Were Getting Crazy, and By Things, I Mean Me.

For years the only self-care I was getting were from my daily home work out programs. I remember patting myself on the back thinking, I’m so smart taking this time for myself. This self-care stuff is simple.

There was a small problem with my thinking.

Self-care is more than just working out.

It’s more than a thirty minute sweat session. Especially if during that thirty minutes your mind isn’t focused on the moves, but on something else. It also doesn’t work if your children break your focus every few minutes.

I was getting into shape because I was working out daily, and I was paying attention to what I was fueling my body with, but I wasn’t feeling any more filled.

My mind and body felt depleted all the time, and I was not filling my children with loving attention.

Something Had to Give

When I finally realized I needed more in my life than a daily fitness routine, I started looking for other things to enrich my life. The problem with this was that I still didn’t have any extra time.

So, I started by cutting out extraneous things that didn’t bring me joy.

The first thing to go was Facebook. Suddenly I had a lot of extra time that I didn’t have before, but I wasn’t done cutting things out yet.

I’m quite a perfectionist, and that is a time consuming personality. In the last year I’ve focused on letting things go, of getting rid of this time eater. I’ve done this in small ways like: not worrying so much about the toys in the living room, or the unfolded blankets on the couch and chairs.

These little things led to other things that have made time-management easier. Like the printable in this post.

What Can You Cut Out of Your Schedule?

Before you go any further, take a moment to list the things you do throughout the day. This includes running errands, making meals, being a taxi, and scrolling through social media.

In case you were wondering, the time you spend binge watching Netflix also counts.

Once you’ve listed the things you do each day, decide what things you can cut out or at least down.

It’s important for us as mothers to make the time, not just wait for it to appear.

I know mindlessly scrolling through social media may help us check-out for a few minutes, but trust me, you’ll thank yourself if you cut it back so you have time for some real self-care.

Sare Approved Self-Care Ideas

Below is a list of just a handful of self-care ideas that are possible in short amounts of time. Things that have personally helped me to better focus on filling my tank, so that I can better fill my children and husband with love.:

Mom Approved Ideas for Daily Self-Care--Wellofaith.com
Full Fat Tea
  • Time in the Word.
  • Reading personal development books (Here are a few recommendations)
  • Reading a great novel
  • Enjoying a cup of tea or cocoa on the porch
  • Get moving (at home workouts bring a personal trainer straight to you, and for a time that works for you!)
  • Get a massage
  • Get your nails done (or do them yourself)
  • Take a long shower or bath
  • Stretch your body daily
  • Drink at least half you body weight in water daily
  • Try a new make-up technique
  • Wash your face
  • Crank up worship music and praise God
  • Enjoy a special treat. We have an amazing cupcake bakery near us, and I love going there and indulging in a gourmet cupcake.
  • Get enough sleep (this one is super important)
  • Eat a balanced diet. Remember fat is NOT bad for you. Stay away from things that claim they’re “low fat”.
  • Listen to a podcast. Mama Bear Apologetics has a great one. So does Million Praying Moms.
  • Go out for coffee with a friend (and leave your phones on silent in your purse).
  • Journal, color, or create.
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Chocolate Chip Cookie Dough Cupcake

Obviously, this isn’t an exhaustive list, but I do hope it has given you some ideas of how you can add some much needed self-care into your life.

In the comment section, please add any other self-care ideas you have tried or want to try. I’d love to add to this list in the future.

Until next time,

wellofaith
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Fallen World “Beauty”: God + Love is Greater Than Sweatpants

God+Love > Sweatpants

This article was originally posted in 2015.

This is Why the World Can’t Have Beauty

Recently I stumbled across and interview Eva Mendes gave where she stated that the end of a marriage can be directly related to the wife wearing sweatpants.

If you want to read the original article that led to this posting click here.

Say what?

Normally, I don’t pay a lot of attention to what celebrities talk about.

I especially don’t tend pay attention to celebrities who feel qualified to give marital advice when they’re not married.

However, reading many of the comments linked with these articles on social media made me reconsider.

In Society Today, Beauty is Only Skin Deep

There are a lot of women–too many women–who feel Eva Mendes is correct.

They believe in this day of Photoshop and plastic surgery what a wife wears is the true key to the longevity of their marriage.

I need to clear this up.

For everyone.

Or, at the very least, for the people who read my weekly ramblings.

What We Wear At Home Should Not Be a Deciding Factor in the Strength of Our Relationship With Our Spouse.

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No, this isn’t my husband or me. It is a great photo, and captures exactly what should connect a husband and wife.

Marriages are a contract, yes, but they’re a contract that should be tied to a deep and abiding love and faithfulness– to not only our spouse, but to God.

When I got married, I distinctly remember the minister mispronouncing my short name, but getting my husband’s long, long, long name correct. the words, “for better or for worse” among the words my husband and I repeated.

I’m sure there are people who will smirk and say, “For better or for worse doesn’t have anything to do with bad style choices.” I disagree. Completely.

If my husband’s love for me were directly tied to the way I looked, our marriage would have ended years ago.

I may not wear sweatpants, but I also don’t wake up each morning before my husband so he doesn’t see me without my ‘face’ on.

For that matter, I rarely wear make-up, so there’s that.

He’s seen me with bedhead, fighting the stomach flu.

I’ve had chronic migraines, that have done nothing for the way I look; and long ago, he saw me when I drank too much.

None of these sights were pretty, and they’re all a heck of a lot worse than him seeing me in a pair of sweatpants.

Love Isn’t About the Way You Look, It’s About the Connection You Have With Someone’s Heart.

Love is the butterflies you get in your stomach when you know you’re going to see them; it’s the comfort their presence brings you, without them saying anything.

It’s knowing that you don’t have to doll yourself up all the time to impress them, because they’re impressed with the way God created you.

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I can guarantee I’m wearing work out leggings in the picture. Possibly baby spit too. Also, pretty sure my three year old is wrapped around my leg.

“Your beauty should not come from outward adornment, such as braided hair and the wearing of gold jewelry and fine clothes. Instead, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God’s sight.”

1 Peter 3:3-4

They don’t love you because of the adornments you use to be fashionable or beautiful for a materialistic world.

I understand what she ‘might’ have been trying to say.

Women Should Take Pride in Themselves.

The biggest problem with associating this with a type of pants, is that people miss the bigger picture.

Pride in yourself is fine–as long as you remember everything you have is God’s.

Be careful about having too much pride in your good looks, your perfect body, or the clothes you wear.

All of those things are fleeting.

The beauty God created inside you–your heart and soul–those are where the true strength of your marriage will come from.

So, ladies if you feel like your husband (or boyfriend) will leave you if you don’t look your best, walk away.

He’s not the one for you.

Don’t sell yourself short for someone only interested in the outer trappings.

Find that person who will love you even when you’re looking your worst, because he’ll see the beauty God created.

Besides, no one wants to be worried about their hair or make-up at two in the morning–when they’re in labor.

No one.

Trust me.

God + Love > sweatpants. Always.

Until next time,

wellofaith
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